Compliment

We just received a compliment.  Well, we chose to receive it as a compliment.  We were just called by CCAS Toronto with a child placement.  Obviously they weren’t aware that we had already had 2 children placed with us last Spring.  But it’s nice to know that we were chosen – again.  I do feel bad though, it takes a big process for a worker to actually go through the piles and piles of waiting families and find the right one for a child.  That process had been done, and we were chosen, unfortunately that time has been wasted since we already have Amaris and Kai’o.  This shows us a few things…

  1. Young couples are needed to adopt through Children’s Aid.  There are a lot of kids waiting to be adopted (approximately 30,000 in Canada) through Children’s Aid.  EXAMPLE:  A very busy toddler with a speech delay becomes available for adoption.  They are looking for a couple who can keep up to that toddler… who can address the needs of that child.  So would you choose the 25 year old couple or the 50 year old couple?  Over 80% of adoptive parents are over the age of 40….
  2. There is a need for MORE adoptive families… Especially families that are willing to adopt more than a “happy, healthy, white baby”.  Is how Jon puts it.  There is nothing wrong with wanting that, but I highly suggest going through private adoption if that’s your thing.  There seems to be the tendency for people with infertility to want that brand spanking new baby.  Hey, I could just be saying whatever I want here, but this is my experience, my understanding.  You always hear about people who wait 4 or 5 or 6 years for their adoptive child, but that really depends on their situation.  Did they want a newborn or infant, were they wanting to adopt a toddler?  What about the amount of information given on the child including family social and health history?  What about drug and alcohol exposure?  What about prenatal care?  What about mental health in the birth family?  There are SO many things that people need to take into account when specifying that wait period.
  3. There are babies available through CAS.  We said that we would like our child to be under 2 years old… When Makai’o and Amaris were placed with us, they were 7 months and 23 months.  We never expected their to be 2 kids under the age of 2, but there were!  Babies and toddlers are looking for families.

On another note, Foster Families are in great need in the Hamilton area.  Babies are being born left, right and centre!  Recently 10 beds have been closed (for various reasons), and that makes a HUGE difference for the kids needing somewhere to sleep and somewhere to be loved.  If you have ever considered, or have NEVER considered…. Educate yourself.  http://www.homesforkids.com/

The Children’s Aid Society of Hamilton will be hosting Foster Parent Information Nights on the following dates:

  • Tuesday, February 22, 2011
  • Tuesday, March 29, 2011
  • Wednesday, May 4, 2011
  • Tuesday, June 14, 2011

All Information Nights are held at the agency from 7:00 pm – 9:15 pm .  To register for an Information Night, or for more information, call Homes for Kids at 905-546-KIDS (5437).

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One thought on “Compliment

  1. Hello, Congratulations on your children, your family and your desire to educate many on the needs of children in Ontario. I’m certain we have far more in common than not in common :). I just found your blog and look forward to reading more of your story! I felt compelled to share another perspective on the age of foster parents in regards to your comparison of 25 year olds vs. 50 year old parents. By now you know where I’m going with this 🙂 I’m in my 40s and my husband is in his 50s. We have been fostering for over 8 years. In addition to my biological child we have adopted 3 of our children and are legal guadians for a 4th. The positives of adopting as older parents are that we not only have experience in raising children (both biological and through foster care) but we also have the time. We were both very successful in our careers and were able to retire early…41 and 42…so we are home full-time and available to meet our children’s needs without the distraction of careers or debt. Additionally, our maturity and our longevity in our relationship also contributes to stability for a child. Especially when the child has special needs which can create a tremendous amount of stress on a family. We have been able to out run all of our children despite our ages :). Although I don’t have facts, perhaps you do, I don’t think CAS is only looking to place children with younger couples. I think age is only one of many many factors and at 50 does not weigh heavily in decision making. In fact, 90% of the 40+ children we have been blessed by over the years have been toddlers. This is not a criticism by any means…just wanted to share with you another perspective.
    Blessings, MommyMary2Many

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