My Plea for the Celebration of Mother’s Day… Especially in the Church.
Mother’s Day is always hard for me as I grieve the loss of my children’s biological family while celebrating my own motherhood. It’s twisted as I feel torn and guilt. I think of Amaris and Makaio’s birthmother and how she is not with her children on this day. I wait alongside my many friends who are trying to start a family whether in the adoption process or biologically, and it is a difficult day with so many emotions. When Mother’s Day is celebrated in the church, traditional mothers are often singled out and asked to stand in church and praised or thanked for all they do… But what about the rest… What about all the other women.
There is so much to consider in how Mother’s Day is celebrated within the church and it can be a very “loaded” day for so many… Not only those women that wouldn’t be described in a Mother’s Day greeting card but all of those who have a mother. And that’s all of us.
I hope that churches are very prayerfully considering how Mother’s Day is being discussed on Sunday. I always have concerns going into the day worrying about how it will be celebrated and I’m speaking out. No matter how it’s happening in your church on Sunday, here’s a blog post that will hopefully meet you where you are at when approaching this challenging day.
Churches & Pastors: Thanks for considering all women on Sunday, and not just the women who are traditionally mothers. Celebrate that everyone has a mother and concentrate on that instead of singling out those who are currently a traditional mother.
Thanks again to Amy for your post:
To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you.
To those who lost a child this year—we mourn with you.
To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains—we appreciate you.
To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you.
To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment—we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.
To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms—we need you.
To those who have warm and close relationships with your children—we celebrate with you.
To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children—we sit with you.
To those who lost their mothers this year—we grieve with you.
To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother—we acknowledge your experience.
To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood—we are better for having you in our midst.
To those who have aborted children—we remember them and you on this day.
To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children—we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be.
To those who step-parent—we walk with you on these complex paths.
To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren, yet that dream is not to be—we grieve with you.
To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year —we grieve and rejoice with you.
To those who placed children up for adoption—we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart.
And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising—we anticipate with you.
This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.